Creating a harmonious family while navigating cultural expectations

Salam you have mentioned about the importance of having beard in your previous speeches, the thumbnail doesnt show the husband with that. Can you make sure next time please jazakallah.

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Thank you! May Allah subhana wa taala reward and bless you and your family❤

Creating a harmonious family while navigating cultural expectations
Surah Furqan (25:54)
“And He is the One Who creates human beings from a ˹humble˺ liquid,then establishes for them bonds of kinship and marriage. For your Lord is Most Capable.”
1. By descent children, grandchildren
2. ⁠by marriage
Everyone who is connected to the husband now has a connection to the husband everyone who is connected with the wife now has a connection with the wife
-> marriage brings families together

Children who grew up with their families around them with all of their grandmas, grandpa’s uncles and son are going to experience a stronger and happier upbringing when they become older
They feel more belonging in this world
-> if kinship ties are broken you yourself can become broken as well as well as your children in their children passing it along generation to generation cycle can sometimes not become stopped, which is also why marriages do not work out
(Mental illnesses..)
Islam did not come to to marriage into a dictatorship
Islam also took into situation customs and traditions of the people it did not neglected but it created boundaries at the same time
Islam wants to maintain the consistency of the family
No boundaries-> cause of conflict
Do not mix business with family because there’s a huge conflict potential
The number of rights a wife and a husband have are equal in number even though some are different in nature
Islam put:
Qur’an first, Sunnah second, Culture & Customs third
An islamic poet said:
A mother is like an education institution if you look after her, you will look after a generation with amazing personalities and healthy upbringing
The father is the pillar
If you break a person you’re not only breaking the person but also an entire generation
Islam came to put boundaries whether her husband and wife stay together or whether they separate:
Father-in-law and mother-in-law remain mahram from the moment the children get married
-> permanent mahrams!
-> that’s because they have children together and their children remain related to the grandparents forever
Some parents drag their children into their problems and they deprive them from their relationships
-> major sin
Just because I do not talk to a certain family member, this is not my children’s problem he or she can continue talking to them
Islam came to solidify the bond you offer beautiful services kindness and goodness to your in-laws
It is the right of a husband and a wife once they got married to have their own dwelling and live alone separate from their parents
-> established fact in sharia
In some cultures: a woman is forced to live with her husband and his parents forever (without a valid reason, no need for that)
Siblings of the opposite gender are treated as mahrams -> no mahrams!
Islam gives the right to the husband to control his own wealth -> from this money he has to take care of his wife and children and their needs as well as all of his parents but only if they are in need
Husband is responsible for:
The wife first, children, mother & father when they are in need
He is not obliged to spend on her family
Womans wealth -> Allah has not obliged her to spend it on anyone
-> she serves her husband, children, homemaker, she can work if she likes
She can give out of goodness but its not mandatory
Husband can not force wife to give her money to someone else
-> if in need: it would help the bond of the family
If you change your view on the thing, the thing itself changes
Our children are always watching us and they will never fail to imitate us
Know where the boundaries are and don’t put pressure & obligations in areas where Islam did not allow you

Jazaallah khairan Shaikh it is important blessing and peace

I think it is important to keep your children around families are mentally healthy. Children will be mentally heathly if they are around good family members. If your family members are abusive sexually, physically and mentally, I think you should keep your children away.

May Allah reward you with goodness and grant you His support, just as you have supported us in raising our children while living abroad. I am an Arab mother living in exile, and my children have grown up in South Africa more than in their home country. Your lessons have been of great benefit to us and to many others in similar circumstances, as well as to those seeking guidance in adhering to the true Salafiyyah. I sincerely thank you for your efforts, and I pray that Allah elevates your status and rewards you abundantly.
جزاك الله خيرا ،ورفع الله قدرك وثبتك الله ،

Mashallah

Alhamdulillah a very fair and balanced view

May Our ummah becomes one

I wish everyone in my country could listen this.. May Allah reward you sheikh

Mashallah, Allah give you and your family khair and hasanat

May Allah reward you abundantly for this enlightenment. 🤲🏼🕊️

MashaAllah Sheikh

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Love you Sheikh from Nigeria 🇳🇬