In this video, we explore the Islamic framework for men and women, their rights and responsibilities, qawwāmah, obedience within ma’rūf, and how these roles work together within the boundaries set by Allah.
00:00 Introduction
02:36 Who Sets the Standard?
04:20 The Islamic Family Framework
09:36 Rights & Responsibilities
13:12 Understanding Qawwāmah
26:01 Does Islam Favour Men?
27:39 A Wife’s Responsibilities
33:24 The Prophetic Example
36:46 Financial Responsibilities
41:50 A Woman’s Voice in Marriage
45:34 Conclusion
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I will be revisiting and readdressing the other previous topics in due course InshaAllah.
I’m currently travelling, so I ask for a little patience until I’m able to give each topic the time it deserves.
This particular lecture is intended to be a foundation for those discussions, establishing the broader Islamic framework before returning to the individual issues.
Nothing is being swept under the rug or avoided.
My duty is to convey the message of Allah as faithfully, clearly and responsibly as I can.
This is the most well detailed video about marriage. Allah ease is sort in today's marital affairs
May Allah reward you immensely 🤲🏼 you are a blessing for the Ummah ❤️
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Jazakallahu khairan ❤
Jazaakallahu khayran all you do for teaching our religion may Allah protect you and your family
Jazakh'Allah
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The deleted video was the first time i listened to belal assad whole way through. For me, his video seemed not influenced by culture or other factors affecting islam. The internet is painting him as a villain but he was only speaking in good faith.
Shouldn’t have deleted the past video. It was all true. This is how the majority of the people think.
My dearest Sheikh Belal, thank you for this deeply moving lecture. Starting from 'the very beginning' was a stroke of pure wisdom.
If we do not understand the bedrock of our very existence—the core of what it means to be human, as man and woman, through the divine lens of our Deen—how can we ever learn to hold space and understand each other? What a beautiful, ground-breaking start. I await the continuation of this crucial series with deep respect, love, and anticipation.
JazakumAllahu Khairan to you and your incredible team for all the selfless effort, care, and truth you pour into bringing this light to us.
May Allah (SWT) reward every step.
aameen .. keeps motivating us .. jazak Allahu khairan kaseeran ya sheikh Bilal Asad
This is so disappointing.
You were my favorite sheikh/scholar and i have mostly been listening to your lectures for the past 2 years or so.
Seeing that almost every single scholar only ever preaches islam on the topic that only men want or men likes; which are always women and our awrah and our hijab and our voice and etc, is EXHAUSTING and DEPRESSING.
"Is islam a religion designed for men and their pleasures? Does islam see women less than men? Are we actually oppressed?"
These are the questions that some of us as women are battling with deep down in our hearts. And I can say this because as a 22 year old, me and my friends have been struggling so much lately with such questions. But we are still holding onto the fact that Allah is the most just. And when your videos explaining the hadiths were uploaded, it eased our pain a bit. But unfortunately once again men's pleasure and comfort is more important than the truth and help towards women struggling with the deen.
May Allah SWT bring ease to all women of the ummah having to deal with these struggles and difficulties from muslim men and their manipulative remarks.
Alhumdulillah for you Shaykh! A really well balanced informative and much needed explanation and exploration of Allah Subhaan Wa'tala's message to us all! May Allah Subhaan Wa'tala continue to bless you and guide you with the wisdom to continue to support the Ummah, especially in these confusing times!
Beautiful & timely reminder. All that you conveyed Sheikh, resonate strongly with my experience being married for nearly 18 years now. Alhamdulillah. Please make dua for us to remain together and strong for the sake of Allah SWT.
Hi, i hope you are doing well. May Allah bless you with baraka in every good deed you do. Ameen.
Question is about a sister, who is not getting married, because of laziness of her brothers n family and also because she has vitiligo on face. Then she was doing job according to her education and was providing for not only herself but her family as eldest son was not supporting enough and saving more for his plans to study abroad. Now the sister is jobless. Whats the Islamic ruling for her? Should she seek another job? Her brother says Allah will made a sabab for her marriage but does not make any effort. Thank you
Assalamu alaykum
Ya Sheikh
I listened to the previous video you deleted, and after watching this one, I feel the same issue is being discussed again. I may be mistaken, but I humbly feel it may be better to leave this topic aside
My concern is that we are living in sensitive times, especially for our sisters. Certain modern feminist ideas can influence how people perceive Islam, marriage, and the roles and responsibilities of men and women. Without sufficient Islamic knowledge and context, topic like these may unintentionally lead to misunderstandings or confusion and create doubts, reshape perspectives, or lead to misunderstandings about Islamic principles
May Allah reward you for your efforts, guide us to what pleases Him, and protect our Ummah from confusion
Allah knows best
Salaam Sheikh,
Alhamdulilah I was one of your followers who was lucky enough to watch your in-depth 3 part video on the same subject matter that you took down due to backlash from others.
I say Alhamdulilah because this video is a high level summary of the deep dive you took before.
Thank you for your time, knowledge, gentleness. May Allah bless you and yours. Ameen.
Shukran ya Sheikh. Jazak Allah Khair.
can you bring back the former videos
I understand why you decided to talk about the rights and responsibilities of both men and women. It is set out in our religion, and it should be explained with consideration to both men and women while acknowledging different circumstances and walks of life (which Islam does not exclude anyway).
However, this topic is about the rights and responsibilities of men and women within the family structure. This topic is not about removing misunderstood translations, explanations and terminologies about hadiths that are being weaponised against women- this, in and of itself, is an entirely different topic. This is not an issue that men experience on the same level.
Some misunderstandings I have seen circulated online against men are mainly the following: 'his money is her money', although, NOT ALL his money is hers even in a marital dynamic. Or some women pushing that a wife does not have to do anything at home at all (even though she doesn't work), and the husband has to work outside and also do all household chores (unless he hires her help) because she follows a certain Islamic school of thought (without wisdom) leaving him mentally and physically crushed.
Still there is a lot of weaponisation against women using religion. Countless videos out there saying that a wife refusing a husband intimacy results into her being cursed by angels WITHOUT providing context that this hadith is about neglect from the wife. This hadith is not about the tired woman, the woman experiencing pain, the woman who is married to an abuser, the woman who is being graped in her marriage. Despite this being such a sensitive hadith, some male speakers DO NOT always clarify how this hadith should be interpreted by the wider male population to ensure the safety and wellbeing of women. This is one of many examples; among them attacking female intellectual abilities, again, by using hadith, or ridiculing women who are involved in wider public works outside of being a wife or a mother- calling them feminists, westernised and not fit for marriage simply because they are doing what interests them. I am not saying that a woman following her ambitions should neglect her family, but to attack Muslim women invovled in wider works outside of her house or for pursuing higher education is also wrong. The examples of the pious female predecessors involved in public life outside of being a wife or a mother was therefore IMPORTANT. The different fields they contributed to as examples for us to look up to was therefore IMPORTANT. There is something called compatibility. If a man does not find himself compatible with a woman who wants to build her career or pursue further education then simply don't propose to women like these- but to attack and call them all feminists and westernised is wrong. Or believing that a woman can have NO LEADERSHIP role at all in any aspect of life because she is mentally unfit or 'too emotional'. Or using hadith against black women that they don't have to cover like non-black women because they are not as good looking. We know all this is circulated against women by a group of literalists, and only Allah knows what is in their hearts. But removing these misunderstandings against women was and is crucial.
I appreciate your efforts and intentions, sheikh. May Allah make it easy on everyone and guide us.
Ya Shaykh! Wish you would not have deleted the others … which if they were from authentic sources and sunnah, were a word of truth in the face of the oppressive heads of families across Muslims homes
So in conclusion, the west is right, woman are also opressed in islam
It seems everyone is scared to defend women publicly. Your talks are great regardless. Barakallahu feekum
Edit: he said he’s traveling and he’ll be addressing the previous talks later. Looking forward to it. Barakallahu feekum
I love it when he mentioned sheikh utheymeen RA🤍🤲🏾
I’m sad that the lectures regarding the hadiths and Quran passages about women were taken down. I didn’t receive the lectures as getting to have a “one-up” on a man, but as a learning opportunity. I also realized that I had misinterpreted these things and I also have used these hadiths and Quran passages out of context when advising the young ladies… and I feel guilty. I do not not want to advise another young woman wrong again.
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Nothing new, we have heard this our whole life. Please Bring back the previous authentic lecture which is your original authentic style of speaking where we learn something new with insightful analysis, rather than a carefully crafted speech like this as though read from a paper.
Those videos weren't supposed to be deleted. This shows how much behind we are as an ummah, and how much women are oppressed and denied to have a voice.
WAS THERE EVER A VIDEO ON MENS RIGHTS THAT WAS TAKEN DOWN? NO!!!
I had high hope from sheikh Belal as he spoke up on women rights in previous video, i was so happy that the video was so balanced and detailed and it gave my heart peace, however he took it down to appease other scholars possibly men and presented this version which seems more like a ‘press conference’ than a lecture 🙁 Unfollowing and never trusting any sheikh again.
It is such a shame that the video for women rights were taken down. I followed sheikh Belal for his honest analysis and bravery to speak up on behalf of the women, and his way of speaking with humility and good manner about women rights, that are already marginalised and tortured and abused based on incorrect interpretations of arabic words and cherry picking and finally i thought someone is speaking up but SIGH.
When previous lecture was for rights of women it is obvious because women are suffering more at the hands of men and in general and have been for centuries so it only makes sense to speak up on their behalf in the previous lecture, the removal of the video and the unnecessary adding up of men rights in this video and changing up statements makes no sense and only goes to show that even scholars are afraid of common people and to speak up for the marginalised gender.
When ‘Qanitat’ means obedience to Allah, then why are you adding obedience to man in it yourself when this is Not mentioned by Allah in the verse. Moreover you say that All men in general are a degree above women, are you saying that a man walking and howling at women on the street who walk past is degree higher? or a brother who eats up sisters inheritance is a degree higher than sister? Or a son who sits at home and does nothing has a degree higher than his own mother??? Or a husband who forces wife to work and earn financially and has to bear not only her expenses but also rent, groceries and all bills and forced to do all housework aswell and he pays nothing for her, treats her and her parents with disrespect and forces her to live with his parents and siblings, gives divorce threats all the time,doesn’t want children with her, is porn addict, smoke addict, and is busy with his friends and family and girls and phone and when wife speaks up gives divorce threats is a degree higher? How can you say All men when the verse is explicitly about Husbands and that too the ones who are qawaam, and who spend on their wives, and treat them with love and kindness. Giving a blanket statement like that and saying ALL MEN in collective degree higher in a society where men already feel superior because of their family structure just because they are men like they kill and rape and throw acid on women because of their superiority complex, parents preferring boys and giving them better treatment and opportunities, for studies, good food and difference in love and even who gets to eat first! Where there is so much injustice already against a gender already and where men think of themselves as miniGods and our scholars are afraid to speak up, and when they do they have to take down their video and have to do a video like this which seems more like a campaign ad to appease other men rather than speaking on behalf of women who are suffering zulm at the hands of miniGods who misuse these blanket statements.
Sheikh my heart hurts, i couldn’t sleep last night due to this video remembering the zulm that my husband did in the name of so called mistaken obedience and superiority. I cried through the night. I will InshaAllah hold each and every sheikh accountable in Akhirah who were afraid to speak up the facts, failed to interpret and give properly the words of Allah despite knowing how the culture is, and failed to protect the women! The zulm these statements cause will be the reason for darkness on the day of qiyamat.
Shukran So much I appreciate this a million
Jazak'Allah Khair for this amazing lecture Shaykh. To everyone in the comments please do not listen to the haters or those who are saying Shaykh is not addressing concerns, Sisters, or Brothers. Rather he addresses both concerns, the rights, and most importantly what is in accordance to obeying Allah SWT from both sides. An excellent Khutba, may Allah SWT guide us and protect us from the influences of Shaitaan and for us to be righteous spouses in accordance to the Sunnah, Ameen!