0:00 Introduction
0:55 The ruling of marriage
6:43 How to search for a spouse and what are the boundaries
16:17 Seeing the potential spouse
33:30 Question 1 – How do you envision marriage?
34:32 Question 2 – What qualities would you like to see in a spouse?
35:09 Question 3 – What are you family dynamics like?
39:45 Question 4 – How do you spend your free time?
40:20 Question 5 – What are your thoughts on financial arrangement?
44:35 Question 6 – What is your social life like?
44:46 Question 7 – Who are your friends?
44:58 Question 8 – How do you want to raise children?
46:51 Question 9 – What are your future ambitions?
47:03 Question 10 – Do you have any health issues?
48:02 Question 11 – What is your past like?
52:30 Question 12 – What type of a wedding do you want?
53:23 Q&A Session
In this video, we delve into the principles and practices that can help you nurture a strong and fulfilling marriage according to Islamic teachings.
Discover the wisdom behind the importance of compatibility, communication, and mutual respect in Islamic marriages. Explore the role of love, mercy and compassion as foundational elements that create a nurturing environment for both partners. We discuss the significance of shared values, goals, and the pursuit of spiritual growth as essential components of a healthy relationship.
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It seems one is interviewing a prospective applicant for a job not a life partner
Or perhaps
It is a job for a woman and lot a life partner.
salam alykoum merci pour votre video sauf moi jai 50 ans et je veux me marier sans avoir dautres enfants a cette ages on cherche pas les enfants pouvez vous parles des gens divorcer de 40 ans et plus qui se mari pas pour voir des enfants il en on dejas et nen veulent plus ….
I'm single forever
I have a muslim sis, she is AS – a graduate and groomed in Islamic knowledge , light in complexion.
She is searching for a comforting husband.
Please connect with me if you are Interested or know someone who is ready for marriage.
21:04 why would someone even promise they would change they cannot be sure themselves.. genuine question
Very beneficial and practical . πβ€οΈβ€οΈ
Thankyou for this video..
You confirmed much of what i shared with him some of what he not agree with me over..
But after a while its getting better…it takes time. And we
dont go to
Sleep angry.and and say some kind words.
And also, what if the man didn't meet the woman choice like being an Haafidh and have completed thanawiyyah.
Is all this steps should be done immediately youet her or after you get interested in each other?
Please, I want a reply
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Personally i'm not comfortable showing anything to him. What if he's not the one. I'm okay thank you.
First time I heard realistic advices about relationships. Nowdays, weβre studying and working with men so itβs hard to tell a person talk to Dad directly without him mentionning his intentions β¦ What I used to do to stop non serious person from talking about nothing is to ask direct question: why do you keep asking about me? Then tell I dont accept friendship sorry π May Allah bring the convinient spouse for everyone
1:6:50 but I have seen 2 women reverts bc they marry Muslims
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Assalamualaikum. I have been talking to a guy in the arrange marriage set however he has fallen for me completely and he wants me to support his dreams. I like him but our career visions donβt align. What should be done here ?
@belal.assaad so it is not explicitly haram for a woman to marry a christian? That is how it sounded to me when you answered the question in the Q&A session at the end of the video. I would love to know because although most say it is haram it makes sense to me how others explain it like this that the Quran says about the men they can marry women who are people of the book and they can not marry mushrikoon whereas when it talks about women it only says they can not marry mushrikoon. it does not say they can nor they can not marry people of the book. And people of the book and mushrikoon cannot be the same if the men are allowed one and prohibited the other. I unfortunately did not study Quran or Islamic science or anything like that and I am also not writing this to convince fellow sisters to go marry their non muslim love interest, I just want to know the truth. I understand and support the reasons and opinions why muslim should marry muslim men or women. So do you say it is not haram? would you marry a muslim woman with a christian man if she is convinced she will have a good marriage with that christian man and her kids will be raised muslims and the man supports her practicing her deen? Will their marriage be valid/halal or will she be living in zina although married?
1:02:05 … I wouldn't say some women are weak in this context… I would say some are born more sensitive and are compatible with those who are around.
As a revert who could act as our Wali?
Watching this is giving me anxiety
There is no way just because some guy says he wants to get married he can see the necks and legs of a niqabi but I guess that's the ruling
Make sure to include: βdo you prefer sleeping with AC or fanβ.
Trust me, Its also important π’
Names of babies 45:34
41:48 his money
38:35
38:07
Iβm a Christian, and very orthodox (old school) I agree with everything you said, which is why I like watching your videos.
Seems marriage with different religions to me as a Christian would be interference from my family as i consider myself only the head of my household as a Christian which would might not be understood to a different religion.
MashaAllah this lecture is very helpful β€ I'm on the way to get married β€
this was very informative thank you
One of the rare "realistic" shaih
42:00!
Jazakallah khair
Do not take from islamqa. They are saudiβs payroll.
Its right u dont have to expose ur sins but if a man/womans condition is so and so and u dont match them just backup without telling
So sad , I would love to convert , I love a Muslim man .. but now I am scared I would not be enough…
Assalamualikum ow Rahmatullahi wo Barkat.,, πΏπΏπΏπΏπΏπΏ
How Are you and your family members how good friend.
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Mashaallah Very nice your rtalking voice πΏβοΈβοΈβοΈ
Alhamdulillah. Zazakallhu Karan πππππ
When sultan Mehmed || was 21 years old he conquered Constantinople. 23 years old me still thinking to marry . What the big difference between history now
Oppression cause the woman isnβt getting enough free money?π everyone has a job in the west and itβs not haram for a women to contribute so Iβll pass on the obsession on materialism
32:03
12 Questions of discussion:
1. Men: Talk about yourself first
2. How you view marriage life
3. What qualities would you like to see in a spouse?
4. Each others family dynamics (& living arrangements)
5. How free time is spent
6. Finances (Generosity? How is money spent? To whom belongs the Money?)
7. Social life (introvert? Extrovert? Friends?
8. Children (Naming them etc.)
9. Future ambitions & goals & Career
10. Health issues
11. The Past (things that could be an issue in the future)
12. Wedding
Timestamps (Powered by Merlin AI)
00:00 – Understanding the five cases of marriage in Islam
06:21 – Guidelines for searching for a spouse in accordance with Islam
17:12 – Take time to get to know potential spouse before marriage
00:42 – Initiating marriage is allowed but be patient and respectful
32:48 – Tips for starting conversations with a potential spouse
37:41 – Discuss living arrangements, hobbies, and finances before marriage.
48:14 – Discussing past sins before marriage is important
53:43 – Establishing a friendship with teenagers is important to talk about relationships.
1:05:06 – Marry someone you're compatible with religiously and Islamically.
1:10:38 – Marrying within the Muslim faith is advised
What if you have the temptations and the mental and physical capacity but not financial means at all
Cant agree that u can know someone better in uncomfortable condition. Person might get too shy to share himself trully, or even feel that uncomfortable that would only can think about finish that situation as soon as possible. And this is not the theory
May Allah bless you for this lectures
Assalamualaikum my brother's and sisters so here's my story I never had girlfriend ever in my life I never drinked, vaped, never smoked and allhamdulilah I'm proud of it I never even touch a girl (maybe I'd touch the women mistakenly or unconditionally but never touched intentionally) I'd also lowering my gaze since childhood but how to approach a girl in a respectful manner can you guide me with that I'm kind of extroverted with guys I just want a righteous spouse inshallah