Marriage is a life long commitment, and it can be scary for those who do not know what to expect or how to go about it. As a Muslim Marriage Celebrant I am often faced with dozens of questions by the couple and family as to what the Islamic marriage contract involves. Everyone wants their marriage to be solemnized correctly with no doubts later on whether it was valid or not.
In this episode, we go over the 3 steps of marriage and 6 fundamental requirements for a valid marriage according to Islam, and some other related conditions and queries to help people get a better understanding as they prepare for this adventurous journey.
0:00 Intro
0:12 1st Step – Proposal
4:03 2nd Step – Engagement
8:24 3rd Step – Nikah / Contract
*6 Conditions of a valid marriage*
10:03 1st Condition – Identity of the couple
15:06 2nd Condition – Consent of the couple
19:26 3rd Condition – Wali’s approval (for the bride only)
33:17 4th Condition – Two male muslim trustworthy witnesses
33:25 5th Condition – No legal / Islamic impediments
34:20 6th Condition – Mahr (Bridal gift)
34:35 Two witnesses further explained
37:02 Mahr further explained
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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Syaikh
Bismillah
Just ask the wali…
And make it happen
Then..it is valid…
May Allah make it easy..
Aamiin
This seems…like a lot of work.
If marriage isn't registered in marriage council still it will be valid ? Or later it will create problem?
Assalamu 3alaykum. I want to get married soon Inshallah and i have a problem with the wali. My mom and dad both approve and the grooms family also does but my dad is making it difficult, wants me to sign a marriage conract with the groom because of the inheritance money of my father. He also officially changed to shia just because of the inheritance and also is abusive, easily manipulated by my aunts and manipulates everyone. He also doesnt pray and eats non-halal meats. I would dislike him to be my wali because i dont think he will do a good job at it. he is currently about 80 years old and not of sound mind. My fathers side is toxic and my unlces are all absent. Can i make a sheikh my wali? Im sorry for writing this much but since i am an only child and have no brother, i need to get professional advice. Thank you
This video was very helpful and informational thank you for posting it on YouTube
I'm from Malaysia. yes. it is hard.
need to pronounce specific word like template in one breath then confirm with the all 4 witness does it acceptable or not.
marriage is hard in here. i know it is hard due to marriage law here protects women mostly, but still, so tedious so hard.
I wanna get married but now seems impossible with the economy (already hard before recession)
Please pray for me, your sister in Islam
Seriously I feel like staying single for the rest of my life is less of a burden than going thorugh all the embarrassment in irder to get married. My family is non practicing / non religious, I didnt grow up with a lot of cultural teachings, hardly speak the language from where my family originates. I learned how to pray from youtube and was mocked for praying by some in my family. My parents are divorced, and doing a lot of stuff I dont like. I feel like, if a man was to think about marrying his daughter to me he would wanna inspect my family etc and then I would dip. And then the whole language and culture thing would also break the deal. Idk man, I feel so stuck with this
More scholars need to talk about the basics of nikkah in short videos because men have short attention spans
I learnt so much! A much needed topic in this day and age, thank you so much
All you say is wonderful, but I found out my soon to be exhusband only married me to get citizenship, he is from MAURITANIA 🇲🇷 (AFRICA), he's a SCAMMER. Sham on him.
As someone with no direct male relative capable of being my wali (all direct living relatives are either children or female) I was panicking a bit until he mentioned the Hanafi school…ok, I’m no longer worried. I’ve been widowed for nearly a decade so I’m pretty sure that counts as mature enough (my potential partner is Hanafi).
I still haven’t the foggiest clue as to what to request for mahr though.
Alhamdudilla I'm the 1.6k like
What if she has a step father ?
“Don’t try it before you buy it” I’m dying 😂
What school of thought do you follow sheikh bilal?
The more i listen to the lecture the hilarious it is, imagining these poor men proposed or see each other for the first time ,.. She act shy, he act shy, her father stared at you lol 😆
Ijab Kabul in Indonesia is similar to Malaysia as you mentioned..
I agree its not necessary about the saying during ijab kabul must be in one breath, but again its culture.
You know Mr Belal, do you ever considered to write a book, being a marriage celebrant, you have quite a lot of experience that you may want to share with public, .. Just a thought..
No class this week, probably not next week either, ..
All great success insha Allah for Light Upon Light that starts today in England, i am with you all in spirit ❤️
If a person pray only fajr Eid and jummah prayer then what the punishment he will get or its ok or is he count in muslims?
May allah grant you jannah,, you're speech is the best all the time,,
1. talk/ respect the culture
2. visit / get to know
3. engagement / agreement
4. marriage contract
5. identity of the couple
6. accept verbally / consent
7. no legal impediment
8. right of mahr
9. witnesses /audience
It is very crucial to do all of this in islam ☪️ for your marriage to be valid for sure, Maasha allah…goodluck to muslim girls, islam is beautiful and peace ❤
ustaz i want to ask a thing about talaq please help me im confused😭
How about my uncle? because my brother is not a Muslim
Malaysia as same as Indonesia in saying specific speech in one breath to perform akad nikah 🤫
Sheikh please answer my question
Wa assallamu aleykum we rahmetullahi we berekatuhi
2 Months ago i married alhamdulillah, bevor the marriage, i read the prerequisite for a valid marriage i read a lot about the wittinesses to be 2 men or 1 man and 2 women
so i had 1 man and 2 women as wittinesses that put their signature to the contract i also had a audience with more muslim men and women
recently someone said to me that my marriage/nikkah is invalid because i had 2 women as wittinesses..
so i dont know what to do, i barely sleep at night
so my question is, is my marriage valid?
Does the wali have to be Muslim ? How does it work for reverts Whn there’s nobody from the father side? Sometimes the men in the Muslim community really don’t care much about the girl rights when she’s not his daughter tbh
Every time ,wen this brother bilal assad speaks it widens our brains and hearts may Allah bless this brother with all the godness in deen as well as duniya ameeen
Bless you alweys 💕 i love to listen you your great spekar great topics lecture
Olordletnotourheartsdeviatefromthetruth
Allahlailahaillahuwa
Allahlailahaillahuwa
جزاك الله الفردوس الأعلى
Sheikh, what’s your thoughts on a pre nuptial agreement?
After 50+ yrs old, I don't see myself getting married. My family (especially my mother) doesn't seem to agree to any man who comes with a proposal who doesn't meet her requirement. I am still single at this age. Allah knows best, I surrender to His will.
Thank you for this lesson sheikh. My question to you is: How should revert sisters go about it. No muslim in the family – who would be the wali?
İt's the sheikh that i love the most sheik belal Allahuma barık☺
Ustazzz pls give us some stories of your own marriage ❤❤❤
May Allah bless sheikh Belal, elevate his status ya rab grant him and his loved ones jannatul firdous, protect him him ya rab, bairek fee so we continue to benefit from Your knowledge through him, ameen ya rab.
He says that a son can be her Wali if she's been married before, but I've heard that she's able to be her own Wali in any subsequent marriage (since she would have the experience to tell for herself who's in her best interest). Anyone know more about this?
Salamu Aleycom Warahmat Allah wabarakatu sheikh. I married my Muslim husband (ex now) at 18 previously divorced and with a son.
There was no real proposal, he didn’t even go to my mother.
His family refused to give him consent to marry me and threatened to send him back to Jordan. He ran away from his parents home took me to the local mosque. I had no idea what marriage in Islam was.
I didn’t know our rights in Islam I didn’t know about the need of a wali, witnesses or mahr.
*(I know now everything I’ve mentioned were red flags. But I learned about Islam through this man a 21 year old virgin. I fell in love with Islam instantly. Although brought up in JW & Catholicism combined. I always knew there was only ONE God, Allah but I didn’t know His name then. My husband made me feel it would be hard for me to find any man willing to marry a divorcée with child and he seemed to accept my child before we married)
Once there at the mosque we sat down and they ( him and two sheikhs) spoke briefly in Arabic. I didn’t understand Arabic at the time. One of the sheikh did know English yet he never spoke to me except to ask me two questions, if I agreed to marry my husband and if I agreed to the $1 Maher he offered.
I said yes to both. The sheikhs seemed confused but did not care enough to ask me questions to understand how little I understood about marriage in Islam.
A few weeks later my husband told me we’d travel to Jordan to visit his family.
He told me to leave my two year old son with my mother that we’d only be gone for one month. Once in Jordan he informed me we wouldn’t be returning to America. I ran away to return to my son. I was pregnant. He came back and said he’d only take me back if I abandoned my son with his father.
He also informed me if I chose divorce he’d take our son (my second son) to his country and I’d never see him again.
I agreed to leave my first born son with his father after him saying this is who kids go to in case of divorce in Islam. Believing I’d be able to care for him on weekends and times my husband was at work. But my husband’s mother hated my son and made it impossible for me to see him.
When I confronted my husband with this fact he told me in Islam the wife should keep her husband happy at all times and if I angered his mother I’d be angering him.
I was obedient, loyal, respectful helpful to him and his family and believed that they’d allow me to see my son once they warmed up to me. That never happened.
By this time I had reverted but only learned what they’d taught me about Islam. He was physically, emotionally and financially abusive. I was isolated from everyone I knew specially my parents. I made the ultimate sacrifice to move to his homeland to prove my loyalty to him and his family, hoping he’d finally be a good man living in a Muslim country. But his abuse only escalated and he informed me I’d never leave his country with my children to visit my son and family. After he’d specifically promised I’d be allowed to visit once a year.
We separated seven years ago and got legally divorced a few years ago in American court. He refuses to make our divorce legal here in his country to prevent I remarry. And threatened me to kick me out of Jordan if I apply for Khula or register our American divorce here.
Was our marriage valid in the first place?
Jazak Allah Khair.
sometimes its like one person is more invested and ready for marriage and can't accept it when the other person doesn't want to. They start acting all dissapointed. Just a bunch of b.s. to try and guilt trip that person. 😠
Aameen. Make Dua Sis!
Whats the difference between different madhabs ?
Is it 6 conditions there too to be valid?
And is it a must to say that you accept and agree the marriage according to the first condition?
And if the girl is Christian ? But not practicing?
And does writing a mahr obligatory or can you utter it/agree to it by saying it?
When will my marriage happen in dreams
Jazakallah kheiran, love you for the sake of Allah. Barakallah
JazakAllah kheer for great lecture. Although if you could please give a lecture about marriage in today's western society, when muslims children want to marry non muslims, what are the conditions for that marriage to be valid??
It’s disappointing that it’s never mentioned what one should do when they have no family… on either side.. man or woman. Because I’m a convert of 10 years… I have no family. What am I supposed to do? My husband died in 2019, was a love marriage.. small marriage (religious) thx for the advice. I don’t have a family for a man to go to…. So it’s difficult and leaves room for a lot more haram stuff.. it’s difficult to tell these guys no or there should be someone with us.. it’s like they think it’s too strict.. but they’re Muslim… it’s weird
I'm happy that you shaikh finally have your account 😊
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