In this important video, we explore how emotional toxicity, not divorce, is the real threat to children’s well-being, showing how a parent’s character and behavior become the blueprint for a child’s emotional and psychological development.
0:00 Dua
1:26 Intro
2:55 Victory starts with the individual
4:53 Shaitan uses these tactics
8:12 The focus is on the children
10:22 Toxicity, not divorce, is the enemy
16:15 Home is the child’s universe
21:54 The impact on children and statistics
35:20 Divorce vs Damage
38:01 What is the child really learning?
39:09 Dos and Don’ts
45:16 Your character is the child’s blueprint
49:05 You do your part as a parent
50:25 Courts, legal actions and seeking your rights
54:22 What a child would really say
59:33 Reminders to parents and children
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Important Q and A segment to this lecture will be uploaded separately due to its popular demand, inshllah.
Absolutely True,
Beautiful teachings in islam
Bro's out here describing my whole life.
I totally agree with your lovely lecture. This lecture deals with toxicity between husband and wife , but what about , a wife and her children having to live with toxic in laws and worse than this our son having to work for his grandad who abuses him daily at work. So much so that his grandad keeps telling him to go and get himself a job. I’ve tried as his mum on several occasions to encourage my son to apply for jobs and inshallah by the grace and mercy of Allah will bless him with better , but his father as always just insists that he should stay on and work for his grandad, just as he insists that we have to live with his parents and extended family.
I’m afraid my son is now a depressed and sick person , having to please his dad at the expense of his health.
My husband feels that he has to stay with his parents if not , what will people say…
I always say to him sarcastically, that on the day of qiyamah , Allah will present you a golden trophy for your sacrifices at the expense of myself and our children.
May Allah forgive me for my shortcomings and rectify our affairs, strengthen our Imaan and make me and my children steadfast in Islam and bless us with the best in this world 🌎 and the hereafter 🌿🌸
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Bismillah
Subhanallah
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For toxic relationship or facing toxic person… diviorce will be a good solution….for the children…especially…
But becareful for the definition of a toxic person, we have to learn it first and analyze first….
May be we also are toxic persons …if it is ..then we have to fix ourselves… by getting help from professionals….
May Allah forgive us as parents and we ask forgiveness to our children for all our mistakes as their parents …
Jazakallahu Khairan Syaikh for the lectures…
Baarakallahu fiik
Allahumma Ameen 🙏🙏🙏
I lived through years of separation drama, max levels of religious hypocrisy by my dad and selfishness by my mother. In short. I really deeply resent my parents for what they are. To this day they act as if they sid nothing wrong, especially towards me and my siblings.
And it was really serious, all the way up to court order for contact ban, conviction of physical abuse and cps taking away kids etc. At times Id really not want to return home. The only reason I did was my younger siblings.
I saw especially my younger brother who was even seriously physically disabled and recently passed away, suffer so much psychologically from the divorce years themselves and all the following years of toxicity UNTIL HIS VERY LAST BREATH. My parents couldnt even manage to behave when he was on his deathbed. I am so angry at them for what they are.
My parents show no sign of remorse. But I trust in Allahs judgement and hopefully theyll both be fully repayed.
I pray that Allah allows me to be a better parent one day together with a sane and righteous wife inshallah
much needed lecture by shaikh..i am going trough a talaq and we have 3 kids. the problems is the egos of inlaws and my exwife is trying to get leverage from the courts by making all false allegations and trying to portray me as a criminal. isnt this going to taguht , they arent accepting any islamic fatwa as per shariah, i feel this makes them a fasik?? which is even more dangerous. the indian laws mostly favours the wife so she trying to arm twisting me and my family to settle with huge amount , wheres as it was me who was conned during the marriage as she wasn't religious at all and was forced by her dad. today i guess muslim homes are detsroyed mostly because of too much family involvement .please make duas for all. may ALLAH remove a path for peace. aameen
Salam my dear brothers and sisters. My question is this: how do we as adults deal with the issues that stay with us from our childhood as a results of lack of love and constant tensions in the home. As a child I went through a lot and even as an adult now I find that o have issues dealing with my child hood traumas. My outlook on life, relationships and people has been affected. Where do we from here? How can we reset our brains so we are not looking at the world through lenses that we still wear from our childhood? Any advice is apretiated. God bless our brother Bellal and all of us.
I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional and abusive home. Only by Allah's mercy i was able leave aged 18 when i ran off to Uni. I will never ever forgive my parents for the torture they put me and my siblings through.
Sheikh,iam trying to leard Quran but i am not being able to do that for some reasons. But when i listen to your recitation i feel inpired to learn quran. So pls pls pls upload a long video of your recitation. There is no long video of your quran recitation in YouTube.
Salam from Dagestan ❤
JAZAKALLAH khair for this lecture sheikh. May ALLAH SWT protect you help you and succeed you in this world and the eternal life. Ameen.
🤲 Dua for Gaza: A prayer for the people of Gaza, seeking Allah’s mercy for the martyrs and guidance for the ummah.
💔 Toxic Relationships: Discussion about the damage caused by toxic relationships, especially in the context of marriage and divorce.
🏠 Family Unit: Emphasis on the importance of the family unit in shaping communities, with reference to how individual corruption affects society.
📖 Islamic Guidance: Quoting the Quran, focusing on the responsibility to protect families and avoid causing harm that leads to the fire of the hereafter.
🧠 Shaytan’s Tactics: How fear, anxiety, and self-doubt are strategies used by Shaytan to weaken believers and prevent them from fulfilling their duties.
🕊 Islamic Perspective on Divorce: Islam acknowledges that divorce can be a solution in toxic marriages, aiming to protect children and families from harm.
⚖ Toxicity Over Divorce: The real enemy is toxicity in relationships, not whether parents are together or divorced.
👶 Children's Well-being: Children suffer most in toxic environments, often feeling responsible for their parents’ issues.
🧑⚖ Mental Health Impact: Children from high-conflict homes are more prone to anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation.
🧠 Brain Development: Chronic stress in children affects brain development, leading to anxiety and difficulties in trusting others.
🏫 Behavioral Issues: Children from toxic homes often struggle with focus, discipline, and emotional regulation, affecting their performance in school.
🚸 Long-term Consequences: Exposure to conflict can lead to risky behaviors, substance abuse, and emotional difficulties in teenagers.
Great Video 😇
Sheikh Bilal, always on point and on time!! May Allah give you rewards!!
i want to give you a hug, thank you.
Subhan Allah your words melt my heart… Words of wisdom and love… Your knowledge is so important to the world… Allah bless you always brother
Thanks
Thank you, my brother. I needed to hear this today
Very important topic… Just survived 30 years of abuse. Every day is a struggle but I try to keep going forward. May Allah heal our trauma's and give us peace.
Guantanamo Bay is still functioning unfortunately. May Allah free our brothers Ameen